Gifts Or Money?

By Chris Bal

How do individuals decide whether to buy a gift for others, or to plainly give them a card with some money in it?

Are they not two of the same?

Some people believe that it is rude not to bear gifts, compared to a monetary donation for certain "occasions". Many cultures around the world view "monetary" gifts as an insult, and others base an individuals personality and values on the type of "gift(s)" that others give. There are many unique ways others display their feelings on the subject, i.e. crude facial expressions, silent whispering, and sometimes rude gestures.

When we take a close look at the choices, it comes down to how important it is to oneself to be perceived by others. Do we want to be looked upon as being a generous and selfless individual, or a person having no values.

Is "gift" giving overrated? In my opinion, Yes. One should not be judged on the type of "gift(s)" one does or does not contribute. In this situation, receivers or onlookers should take a step back and remember the old saying, "It's the thought that counts". Moreover, realize that unless asked, the "gift" giver does not know their interests at that particular moment.

Okay, so what should you do if it is important how your contribution is viewed? The answer is very simple, Ask. If you get a response of a specific gift that the receiver prefers, great. And if the response is somewhere along the lines of "it's not important" or, "it doesn't matter", that's great also because you can now feel secure that your "gift" will have value no matter what it may be.